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Forgiveness is not owed, not scheduled, and not required for healing. If it ever comes, it comes as a gift you give yourself. 'Not yet' is a holy answer.
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TEND · XI

Lesson 50 of LII · the TEND course
The idea behind this card — Forgiveness, unforced

Forgiveness is not owed, not scheduled, and not required for healing. If it ever comes, it comes as a gift you give yourself. 'Not yet' is a holy answer.

TEND — The practices — sabbath, service, blessing, hope, vigil

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The practice

put the question down for now — formally: 'Forgiveness is not today's assignment.' If a smaller step wants taking, it might be only this: wishing yourself a night's sleep. Start where the mercy is easiest.

Where this idea comes from

  • Everett Worthington — decisional and emotional forgiveness, self-paced
  • Research on harms of pressured forgiveness; release traditions

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GROUND · XI  ·  FEEL · XI  ·  REMEMBER · XI

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