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HELD · for the end of a marriage · every card is a room
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FEEL · V
Lesson 18 of LII · the FEEL course
The idea behind this card — The leaver's grief
If you're the one who ended it: you're allowed to grieve the marriage you chose to leave. Choosing the ending doesn't cancel the loss.
FEEL — Permission for every feeling the ending brings
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The practice
write the sentence and keep it where the guilt lives: 'I ended it, and I'm allowed to mourn it. Both are mine.' The world sends no flowers for this one. Send your own.
Where this idea comes from
- Kenneth Doka — disenfranchised grief
More in this deck
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