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TEND · IX
Lesson 48 of LII · the TEND course
The idea behind this card — The before-call
If there's a person you never have to perform for, you're allowed to lean there — before the hard moment, not only after.
TEND — Scaffolding, boundaries, and the people who hold you
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The practice
name your person — say the name out loud. Then tell them the rule you're giving yourself: 'If it gets loud, I call you at thinking-about-it, not after.' Deputized people answer differently.
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