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If it was complicated, the grief is allowed to be complicated. You can mourn what was and what never got to be.
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REMEMBER · III

Lesson 29 of LII · the REMEMBER course
The idea behind this card — What never got to be

If it was complicated, the grief is allowed to be complicated. You can mourn what was and what never got to be.

REMEMBER — The marriage, the story, the years — held honestly

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The practice

name both griefs on paper. What was: the real marriage, as it actually went. What never got to be: the repair, the apology, the version you deserved. Mourn the second one on purpose. Nobody sends flowers for it.

Where this idea comes from

  • Kenneth Doka — disenfranchised grief

More in this deck

TEND · III  ·  GROUND · III  ·  FEEL · III

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