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You're allowed to miss who you were in it — the Sunday self, the person who had their person. That version of you was real.
The back of The married self — with the code that opens this room
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REMEMBER · IX

Lesson 35 of LII · the REMEMBER course
The idea behind this card — The married self

You're allowed to miss who you were in it — the Sunday self, the person who had their person. That version of you was real.

REMEMBER — The marriage, the story, the years — held honestly

…people sat with this card this month
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The practice

list three things married-you did that are still yours — the cooking, the eye for a road trip, the way you show up. The marriage held them. It never owned them.

Where this idea comes from

  • Erica Slotter, Wendi Gardner, Eli Finkel — self-concept clarity after breakup

More in this deck

TEND · IX  ·  GROUND · IX  ·  FEEL · IX

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