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The people who came with them — the mother-in-law you loved, the cousins, the family table — are real losses too. You're allowed to grieve people who are still alive.
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REMEMBER · X

Lesson 36 of LII · the REMEMBER course
The idea behind this card — Secondary losses

The people who came with them — the mother-in-law you loved, the cousins, the family table — are real losses too. You're allowed to grieve people who are still alive.

REMEMBER — The marriage, the story, the years — held honestly

…people sat with this card this month
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The practice

name the person from their side you actually miss. If reaching out is possible, safe, and wanted, one small line is allowed. If it isn't, one line in a notebook marks the seat. Both count as mourning.

Where this idea comes from

  • Ambiguous loss — Boss

More in this deck

TEND · X  ·  GROUND · X  ·  FEEL · X

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