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Lesson 23 of LII · the FEEL course
The idea behind this card — Withdrawal, not weakness
If you were the one who was left: the craving to reach out, to check, to explain one more time — that's withdrawal, not weakness.
FEEL — Permission for every feeling the ending brings
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The practice
when the urge to contact them surges, name it: 'withdrawal, cresting.' Give it twenty-four hours and text a friend instead. The circuit quiets a little with every wave it doesn't win.
Where this idea comes from
- Naomi Eisenberger — social pain research
- Helen Fisher — romantic rejection and craving
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