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A hard month after a good one isn't a relapse. This grief moves like a tide, not a staircase — and no formula decides how long it takes.
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FEEL · XI

Lesson 24 of LII · the FEEL course
The idea behind this card — The stage-model correction

A hard month after a good one isn't a relapse. This grief moves like a tide, not a staircase — and no formula decides how long it takes.

FEEL — Permission for every feeling the ending brings

…people sat with this card this month
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The practice

formally fire every timeline you've been handed: say 'I am not behind, because there is no schedule.' Replace the staircase image with a tide chart. Yours is the only coastline that counts.

Where this idea comes from

  • George Bonanno — bereavement trajectories research

More in this deck

REMEMBER · XI  ·  TEND · XI  ·  GROUND · XI

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