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You will not always feel exactly as you do right now — not because it shrinks, but because life grows around it.
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FEEL · XII

Lesson 25 of LII · the FEEL course
The idea behind this card — Growing around grief

You will not always feel exactly as you do right now — not because it shrinks, but because life grows around it.

FEEL — Permission for every feeling the ending brings

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The practice

draw it: one circle for the loss, sized honestly. Now draw your life around it — every person, place, and plan added since the ending. Same circle. Bigger page. Keep the drawing.

Where this idea comes from

  • Lois Tonkin — growing around grief

More in this deck

REMEMBER · XII  ·  TEND · XII  ·  GROUND · XII

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