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TEND · XII
Lesson 51 of LII · the TEND course
The idea behind this card — Self-compassion
You're allowed the same patience you'd give your best friend in this exact divorce. That standard applies to you too.
TEND — Support, boundaries, and the rebuild
…people sat with this card this month
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The practice
run the reversal in writing. If your closest friend were living this exact ending, list what you would insist they receive. The rest, the grace, the time, the lawyer-free Sundays. Read the list. Transfer it to yourself, effective today.
Where this idea comes from
- Kristin Neff — self-compassion
- David Sbarra — self-compassion and divorce adjustment
More in this deck
This room doesn't expire. Come back for whatever is coming up — tonight, the anniversary, years from now.
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