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If the heaviness stays very heavy for very long, reaching for help is a strong move, not a weak one. A friend, a group, a counselor — all count.
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TEND · VII

Lesson 46 of LII · the TEND course
The idea behind this card — When the heaviness stays

If the heaviness stays very heavy for very long, reaching for help is a strong move, not a weak one. A friend, a group, a counselor — all count.

TEND — Support, boundaries, and the rebuild

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The practice

run the honest check: has the weight moved at all in recent months, even slightly? If genuinely no, take one step this week: one call, one group lookup, one ask for a name. The rooms are already built, and this grief has a seat in them.

Where this idea comes from

  • Divorce adjustment research — David Sbarra and colleagues

More in this deck

GROUND · VII  ·  FEEL · VII  ·  REMEMBER · VII

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