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TEND · XII

Lesson 51 of LII · the TEND course
The idea behind this card — Self-compassion

You're allowed the patience you'd give anyone else new to this — the grace, the do-overs, the time. That standard applies to you now.

TEND — Scaffolding, boundaries, and the people who hold you

…people sat with this card this month
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The practice

run the reversal in writing: if someone you loved were exactly this many days in, list what you'd insist they receive. Read the list. Transfer it to yourself, effective today. Kindness holds longer than punishment.

Where this idea comes from

  • Kristin Neff — self-compassion
  • Self-compassion and recovery outcomes research

More in this deck

GROUND · XII  ·  FEEL · XII  ·  REMEMBER · XII

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