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You're not required to negotiate with 'come on, one won't hurt.' You owe that sentence nothing.
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TEND · III

Lesson 42 of LII · the TEND course
The idea behind this card — The old offer

You're not required to negotiate with 'come on, one won't hurt.' You owe that sentence nothing.

TEND — Scaffolding, boundaries, and the people who hold you

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The practice

prepare your sentence now, calm: 'I'm good.' Or: 'Not tonight.' Deploy it, change the subject, leave if the seminar starts. A full stop is a complete answer.

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GROUND · III  ·  FEEL · III  ·  REMEMBER · III

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