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HELD · for the end of a marriage · every card is a room
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REMEMBER · I
Lesson 27 of LII · the REMEMBER course
The idea behind this card — Ambiguous loss
They're alive, and the marriage isn't. Grieving a living person is one of the hardest griefs there is. It has a name.
REMEMBER — The marriage, the story, the years — held honestly
…people sat with this card this month
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The practice
say the true sentence once, out loud: 'The person exists. The marriage ended. I can mourn one while the other walks around.' No one held a funeral for this. You're allowed to mark it yourself, any size.
Where this idea comes from
- Pauline Boss — ambiguous loss
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