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You don't have to be strong, and you don't have to be thriving. You're allowed to be honest instead — it's a different job.
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FEEL · I

Lesson 14 of LII · the FEEL course
The idea behind this card — Expressive suppression

You don't have to be strong, and you don't have to be thriving. You're allowed to be honest instead — it's a different job.

FEEL — Permission for every feeling the ending brings

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The practice

once today, answer honestly instead of performing: when a safe person asks how you are, say one true sentence. Notice the cost of the mask versus the cost of the truth.

Where this idea comes from

  • Expressive suppression — James Gross, emotion regulation research

More in this deck

REMEMBER · I  ·  TEND · I  ·  GROUND · I

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