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You're allowed to put the shame down and keep only the guilt. One of them can repair things. The other just sits on you.
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FEEL · V

Lesson 18 of LII · the FEEL course
The idea behind this card — Shame versus guilt

You're allowed to put the shame down and keep only the guilt. One of them can repair things. The other just sits on you.

FEEL — The feelings coming back online

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The practice

catch one 'I am' verdict today — 'I am a disaster' — and re-file it as an 'I did': one specific act, one specific day. Acts can be repaired. Verdicts just sit there. File accordingly.

Where this idea comes from

  • June Tangney and Ronda Dearing — shame and guilt research

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REMEMBER · V  ·  TEND · V  ·  GROUND · V

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